A Hobbyists Reason For Hobbying!

[Willywants]

A Willy Saga! :(

Drove the wife to work again today!
She told me she had fogotten to put on her underwear!
I asked if that meant panty hose too!
She said yes.
I asked if there was anything I could do under the circumstances!
No was the response expected and received.
Her primary concern was that she might fall and wind up with her skirt around her neck!
I told her not to worry, there probably wouldn't be anyone around waiting to take a shot at her anyway!
Got a bit of a smile with that one!
Willy's reaction to this whole scenario??
Continued the drive in a state of arousal! Just the thought of a pantiless woman sitting beside me was a turn on!
Yes! My wife! Even after all these years!
Therein lies the problem and reason for hobbying!
A wife who unwittingly causes, or who perpetrates these scenarios and then drops it!
Told her I would stay the way I was until she got home, (a potentially embarrassing way to go through the day, but for her I would have suffered it). She told me not to bother!
OK! So I won't bother one more time, and look forward to my next encounter!
Poor Willy! Dressed up and no where to go!
Anybody want to share their reasons for hobbying?

Willywants (Yes he does!)

[st1100]

Well, I actually haven't started...yet...
My wife lost interest in all things physical about 2 years ago...
I still love her dearly, but I have needs. (I know that sounds stupid).
Any advice..???

[Master Muse]

My wife suffered from severe fibromyalgia for about 5 years, shortly after we married. (Second marriage for each and, ironically, after long single period.) She couldn't handle the physical aspect of sex and, eventually, I became a hobbyist for the first time.

She still has the problem, albeit less severely than originally, but she has now grown accustomed to celibacy which she alleges she prefers. Too, to keep her problem under control, she spends substantial time at various clinics and spas. We have a second home where she now spends most of her time. Our main home, where I am and work, is about 700 miles distant.

Thus, I am a hobbyist.


Muse

[tboy]

Well, maybe I shouldn't say this but hell, here goes nothing:

Personally its because I am sooo sick and tired of trying to find a woman who wants to have: a relationship, an encounter or even a friendship with me. I mean I have had enough rejection to last 3 lifetimes therefore I have taken myself out of the game.

Although deep inside I hope that someday I will meet a woman who sees in me what all my closest friends see but until then, I am an active hobbyist.

[Sheik]

Sheik's reason was he had no time for relationships because he was working and travelling all the time. Now I don't travel as much and work a little less.

[hardboy]

Ah, the reasons, the reasons......

In my case, she's very timid, almost ashamed of her sexuality. Before we married she swore it would cum (pun intended) with time but it never did. She does have needs; about 3 to 4 times per year and then only a quicky with the lights out. I've tried every arousal technique known to man but after 10years and many discussions about the possibility of prof. help, etc. I gave up and became....... a hobbyist!

[slowhand]

Originally posted by st1100
Well, I actually haven't started...yet...
My wife lost interest in all things physical about 2 years ago...
I still love her dearly, but I have needs. (I know that sounds stupid).
Any advice..???

Hi St, a similar set of circumstances occurred to me also. Wife decided that she would set the boundaries of physical contact and as part of her "conditions", there would no longer be any oral contact! Imagine a woman who, although never thrilled with DATY to begin with, closing this avenue off completely. This rejection is what led me to choosing this hobby. To feel the warm embrace of a woman that enjoys physical contact and doesn't mind taking the time reaching a state of pleasure, whether it's giving/receiving or both. Add to this the variety of women available, the excitement of the hunt for a woman that fits a particular need and the discretion provided by most, if not all SPs, you have a recipe for an addiction. Proceed slowly, if you choose to enter this hobby, and be sure your mind is gilded against feeling guilty. Hope this is some help.
Slowhand

[Sir Lancelot]

My reasons are simple: to have some fun while on the search. I’m currently “between” girlfriends (I hate the term between as it sounds cheap, but not sure what else to use). I am trying (and hoping) to met a nice girl to get into a relationship with, but one does not (usually) do so at the bar scene. So while I’m looking, I’d like to have some fun, but rather than play the one-night stand game, I’d rather use the services of an SP. (A once a month treat). In the end, the cost is the same, and you avoid any hassles, head-games, wackos, pissed of boyfriends/ex-boyfriends, and what have you. Once I meet someone and start dating her regularly, I’ll withdraw from “the hobby.”
I also have to admit that using the services of an SP also allows me to live out some simple fantasies. For example, I’m hoping to take the plunge into trying a duo (the “every man’s fantasy”).

Those are my reasons. Simple, maybe strange to some, but nonetheless, truthful.

May peace be with you this holiday season and always.

[st1100]

...and everyone else. It's somehow nice to know I am not the only one in this situation.

Still undecided....

ST1100

[xarir]

I made a decision a few years back to devote my so called "life" to my so called "career". It's worked out OK so far - I've advanced and reached a point beyond where a lot of my friends have.

But it's carried a high price. I've never had the time to devote to a personal relationship - something I find myself now craving. Anyhow, in the meantime I serviced my emotional desires through the hobby.

And no - I don't have second thoughts about any of this. If I had the proverbial time machine, I really wouldn't have done very much differently.

[Bacchus]

The reason I got into the hobby is simple. I tried so called real relationships and found them wanting. There was damm little sex and it was terrible and I found most of the girls that I dated to be dumb. Then many years ago I went to Reno Nevada and a whole new world opened up to me. The first bordello that I walked into all the girls lined up and you picked the one that you wanted. That was a whole lot better than going to any singles bar! I picked this cute little red head and had better sex then I had with any girl friend.. I kept going to Nevada for many years until big businesses took over the bordello business and turned into something like McDonalds. Then about 6 years ago I was cruising the internet and typed in the word escort into a search engine and low and behold I could not believe the all the entries that popped up on Toronto and the rest is history.

[Bacchus]

As long as you got the money: cool:

[hrpuffinstuff]

I like having sex with many and various beautiful women, including my wife. And it seems that the more I get, the more I want, so I find this has really charged up the sex at home too.

[Willywants]

HR!!
You would be one of the lucky ones! Blowing the wad and the wad on the outside, while still enjoying the relationship on the inside!
Some of us just aren't so lucky! I would suggest that in most cases, we wish we could be so lucky!

Willywants (stability!)

[eyeofthedragon]

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[jwmorrice]

...Willywants (stability!)He'll be back! :p

jwm

[teach]

convenience... i've been married but didn't work out because i'm an immature asshat... i've dated several hotties since the split but the relationship thing really does get in the way... found TERB 2 years ago and have not looked back... it is the best way i have found to sleep with as many hot babes as possible with minimal hassle... thank you to all the SPs whom I have had the pleasure of boinking... we should have an SP appreciation day...

[Mcluhan]

economy of scale...

[a 1 player]

For myself it is variation. I have no problems finding relationships, most of which are good. However, there are just so many beautiful women out there.....

[Mcluhan]

I just noticed this thread, (like the soophie thread) is old..this one 2001

nevermind..the topic is as old as the profession..

Now, a thought just struck after reading the thread, one poster says, "I discovered TERB and never looked back" . So the question begs, I wonder how many have entered the hobby, as a result of reading about it first.

Then there's the other side of the coin. Ladies, what made you enter the trade?

I have this one SP friend to whom I popped the question once and she related her entry story. She had decided to take a weekend alone in the US, shopping. A single mom who wanted a mental health break. Saturday night she was sitting in the hotel lounge alone, and over comes this gent. He asked her casually if she was working, and feeling insulted, she snapped back at him. Then the guy says 'Well, for $500 would you come to my room for an hour?.. lol.. she went.

and never looked back..

[spatial_k]

A Willy Saga! :(

I told her not to worry, there probably wouldn't be anyone around waiting to take a shot at her anyway!
Got a bit of a smile with that one!
...
A wife who unwittingly causes, or who perpetrates these scenarios and then drops it!
Told her I would stay the way I was until she got home, (a potentially embarrassing way to go through the day, but for her I would have suffered it). She told me not to bother!


I don't get it. This is the way it reads to me: she gives a little come-on, this guy makes a thinly veiled nasty comment, she thinks "okay, nevermind" and he thinks she's rejecting him?

Am I reading this wrong?

[tboy]

I don't get it. This is the way it reads to me: she gives a little come-on, this guy makes a thinly veiled nasty comment, she thinks "okay, nevermind" and he thinks she's rejecting him?

Am I reading this wrong?

yeah, you are.....ok, either she is/was a big cock teaser or she's dumber than a bag of hammers. Who (with an iq above that of a turnip) "forgets" to put on panties? then she goes and tells her husband this.....

[jbar]

The reason I got into the hobby is simple. I tried so called real relationships and found them wanting. There was damm little sex and it was terrible and I found most of the girls that I dated to be dumb. Then many years ago I went to Reno Nevada and a whole new world opened up to me. The first bordello that I walked into all the girls lined up and you picked the one that you wanted. That was a whole lot better than going to any singles bar! I picked this cute little red head and had better sex then I had with any girl friend.. I kept going to Nevada for many years until big businesses took over the bordello business and turned into something like McDonalds. Then about 6 years ago I was cruising the internet and typed in the word escort into a search engine and low and behold I could not believe the all the entries that popped up on Toronto and the rest is history.

I agree... the women in this city suck (and not in a good way either). Apparently, they are working on implementing a new law in Toronto... if you ask out a woman and she doesn't like you, then not only does she get to say no, she also gets all of your assets and you get thrown in jail for 20 years. God forbid you ruin her life because you asked her out.

Long live SCs and SPs.

[spatial_k]

yeah, you are.....ok, either she is/was a big cock teaser or she's dumber than a bag of hammers. Who (with an iq above that of a turnip) "forgets" to put on panties? then she goes and tells her husband this.....

That's what I don't get... so she said it, it seems like she's trying to be adventurous, but then he says something that she would probably construe as mean and decides to rescind the offer. No?

Or is there some background to this 'saga' that I'm missing out on?