Does this hobby make men better lovers ??

[jay]

Here is something to ponder, does the fact that a man has seen many SP's make him a better lover ??? Input from all would be great !

[winkie]

It all depends on why you see a SP. If you go just to lay there and have her suck and then mount you obviously you're not going to improve.

However, if you take the inititive and explore her body with your fingers, lips and tongue hopefully you're going to find new spots that drive women wild.

I also think you have to see the SP more than once because the first time everyone is a little reserved.:)

[Jay_toronto]

Dayum Ripped!

I always knew you were The Lord Of The Studmuffins.

[tboy]

Well, that old saying "practise makes perfect" comes to mind.....

And no matter what, EVERYONE can learn a few new things and if you have an attentive SP, she might just show you a new twist.

So does anyone remember that old TV show LA Law? Do you remember the hoopla about the "venus butterfly"???? I always wondered what the hell that was heheheh.......

[syn]

Originally posted by jay
Here is something to ponder, does the fact that a man has seen many SP's make him a better lover ??? Input from all would be great !

i used to think that the wives of my regular clients should be sending me a 'thank you' card - as i improved their husband's 'game' - the same way that seeing a tennis coach bi-weekly would improve their game of tennis.

xx

syn

[Cloud]

That's why I see escorts.......NOT to fall in love with them, but to learn those little neat things that you can do to a woman that you can only learn from a woman.

It's not just the big things like "How do I do DATY ?"...........
it's the little things that you may not even think about

Take care,
Cloud

[Eli]

So I guess the rich are better lovers than the poor or even middle class. Why? Cause they can afford to spend $250 an hour towards an SP. Blah.

I believe any man (or woman) can learn to be a better lover if they just let go of their arrogance and selfishness.

[alex6]

I made a Poll and asked SP's to answer this question awhile back. I can't say for sure who voted (SP's or hobbyist) but the results confirmed what I thought.

Here is the thread:
http://www.terb.ca/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=84656

I suspect the answer is NO

The main reason is that you have no need or reason to please the women (SP) that your with. As you would have to do with a non-sp relationship inorder to have the women desire to see you and be with you again and again and again.

[train]

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I suspect the answer is NO

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That poll's question was only obliquely relevent.The question should be :

If the the clients that weren't good in bed initially repeated did they improve?

Even if you improve it doesn't mean you are any Peter North after a few visits. It's like golf :D it requires constant practice.

[blopar]

But, does it also have the tendency (obviously, there will be many exceptions) to create:

(a) unrealistic expectations in attitude/performance/behaviour of one's partner; and,
(b) emotional or sexual detachment from one's partner?

[David Beckham 23]

How does seeing SP's make you a better lover? SP's are there to make you feel good. And let's be honest, not too many of you are learning from SP’s. If you're a lousy lover then all you're doing is repeating the same mistakes with SP's. And they'll make you feel like you're the king of love making. That's what they get paid to do. Between this and the guys who says they give SP's orgasms all the time. I see there really are some delusional guys on TERB

[Berlin]

Here is something to ponder, does the fact that a man has seen many SP's make him a better lover ??? Input from all would be great !

Better lover ? Don't know. But it sure made me a great planner in logistics.

[Diode]

Better lover ? Don't know. But it sure made me a great planner in logistics.

Cute! and I imagine quite accurate

[Jade4u]

I agree it depends on what the men are coming for. It can make them kinkier and more imaginative and more open minded dependant on what they are looking to try. Maybe men just come to get a release and that is it and have no desire to go further than that. All is good.

[solitaria]

I doubt it. All women are different in terms of likes and dislikes and I think much of their enjoyment of sex flows from an underlying emotional intimacy/closeness they feel towards you. A woman that is madly in love with you will think the sex is great b/c her perception of what she wants you to be to her becomes her reality. At the very least she will give you lots of sex and that is all that matters to you anyway unless you are allowing your ego to get in the way of your happiness. If you are having sex with a bunch of other women you are probably losing that connection with her.

[WhaWhaWha]

Sex services are a crutch for people not interested in developing relationship skills. If you want to improve as a lover, build a relationship.

[Eli]

Better question:

Does seeing an SP make men more hygenic?

[looking4advice]

But, does it also have the tendency (obviously, there will be many exceptions) to create:

(a) unrealistic expectations in attitude/performance/behaviour of one's partner; and,
(b) emotional or sexual detachment from one's partner?

Although far from convinced that I have permanently thwarted my demons, it has now been well over a month since my last visit to a mp. Not only do I take tremendous solice from the knowledge of this personal milestone, I also feel confident that I can extend my streak well into the foreseeable future if not beyond.

This discussion is quite timely for me in my quest to re-right my social life. Not only has the hobby served as a false-security blanket for my feelings of sexual dissatification from the SO's in my life, but my strong sense is that it both created and perpetuated a giant wedge between myself and my SO. Perhaps many of you can detach yourselves from the hobby and have no trouble reconciling your emotions and your conscience. Oddly enough, given that I am actually a little bit of a cold-hearted bastard, (but in a very fair minded way) I for one haven't really be able to successfully draw the line mentally between the hobby and my real social life. It has been a real awakening for me personally ever since I've made the committment to end my participation because what it has taught me to do is focus ALL my energies on potential real world SOs and just dating in general. In as much of a non-judgemental way as tolerable given that I'm basically slighting each and every member of this forum, (included my former self) I've found my life to be far more fullfilling without the "artificial flavours" that accompany the pay-for-sex industry. Notwithstanding I can fully appreciate that a serious relationship or marriage can very easily lack the sexual gratification and intensity that we as virile men seek and require at which point the hobby is probably a more acceptable (morally) outlet for our primordial desires than the alternatives of divorce or adultery with a non-mpa/sp. It is my sincerest hope that I will one day soon arrive at that point in my life where I can keep any such desires at bay permanently. It is indeed a fascinating study in the evolution of male/female relationships as I believe we are still very conditioned as males to need multiple sexual partners while society has essentially chastised the concept.

In sum, I suggest to all that the hobby not only worsens a fellow's sexual prowess with a SO, it can actually be quite destructive.

[kricket]

I don;t think so

[danmand]

That's why I see escorts.......NOT to fall in love with them, but to learn those little neat things that you can do to a woman that you can only learn from a woman.


Is that the line you use with your SO? :D

[homonger]

If sheer repetition and volume were all it took, I'd say I'd have to be an incredible lover by now. I don't think it is quite that simple, however.

Some very good points have already been brought up, and in my mind, the two sides of the coin can be boiled down to "practice makes perfect" vs. "no incentive to improve". I would like to think that hobbying helps, but I honestly don't know. It might make you better at sex, but I'd argue there is a distinction between that and being a good lover. If you read the reviews, though, it seems every guy thinks he is a great lover.